As an autism spectrum parent, I’ve had to get creative to find ways to break through my son’s ability to block out the world. Actually, don’t all parents deal with that at some point? I’ve got twelve tricks for you to try.
1. Show & tell–When my son was younger, I used this parenting trick a lot. I had to physically teach him how to listen. I would say, “Show me listen”. Then my son would need to stop what he was doing, put his finger to his ear, and look at my face. This was a verbal cue to get him to walk through the process of changing what he was doing and pay attention. I don’t use it as much now, but it still works.
2. Put your hands up–Another verbal cue I use is “Put your hands on your head!” Again, this stops the action. If my sons’ hands are on their heads, they’re not also on the toy they just can’t stop playing with or grabbing at a squabbling sibling. If you’re introducing this to your child, include the need to look at you after his hands are on his head.
For the other ten parenting tricks, you need to head over to Tricia Goyer’s blog. I am honored and truly thrilled to be a guest over there today. I’m a fan of her historical fiction and homeschooling articles, and she invited me to write a post for her. It doesn’t get much better than that for a writer! So, take a few minutes to read my other ten ideas for getting your child’s attention without yelling and see how they work for you. Visit Tricia’s blog now!

December 30, 2013 at 9:23 AM
Reblogged this on allaboutmanners.
December 30, 2013 at 12:02 PM
very goodxxxxxx
December 30, 2013 at 12:29 PM
Thanks for the tips, my 2 1/2 year-old daughter has not had an “official” diagnosis, as it takes over a year to see a developmental pediatrician in our area, but she exhibits a lack of attention at times. I cannot wait to try some of these ideas. Thank you and Happy New Year!
December 30, 2013 at 12:33 PM
I hope they help, Ontheupcyclemom! Thanks for stopping by.
December 30, 2013 at 12:53 PM
These are all wonderful ideas. Thank you for sharing the link.
December 30, 2013 at 12:58 PM
Thank you, Mewhoami. You should find at least a few that help. ;)
December 30, 2013 at 4:11 PM
Reblogged this on Stranger Than Fiction and commented:
these are excellent
December 30, 2013 at 4:12 PM
I was just talking to my wife about this subject yesterday. These are excellent tips. Thanks so much!!
December 30, 2013 at 4:31 PM
Thank you, Josh! I hope they make a difference for you.
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January 13, 2014 at 8:40 AM
One thing we do in our home to get our kids attention is a little trick I made up one day when I was at the end of my rope. I didn’t want to yell, so I just stopped, got completely silent, and put up one finger, high into the air. After a bit the kids stopped to notice that I was just sitting there and asked what was going on. I explained I would not say another word until I had their attention. I would know I had their attention if they were making the same hand sign that I was. Wow, it worked awesome. Now, when we are having one of those days and I would be tempted to yell (even just to speak over the kids noise), I stop, and I put up between 1 and 3 fingers, high into the air. I don’t speak, don’t move, don’t do a thing. I completely stop. The kids notice within a very short period of time and turn to look at what I am doing. When fingers are in the air, I can then proceed in a nice, normal tone, full of calm.
January 13, 2014 at 9:36 AM
Great idea, Kari. And while we’re waiting, we can take deep breaths. :)
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